Treating Yourself With The Same Kindness You’d Give Others

Treating Yourself With The Same Kindness You'd Give Others

Hey everyone! Today, I want to talk about treating yourself with the same kindness that you would give others. I know so many people with amazing hearts that do so much good for others, and then tear themselves down day after day. The goal of this post is to show you (if you do that) that you need to start granting yourself with the same kindness that you have gifted others.

Of course, we have to start by looking at how you treat others. The biggest question is obviously, “Do you treat others with kindness?”. Think deeply about the interactions that you have on a daily basis… do you offer to help others, would you help a complete stranger, do you offer to listen, can people count on you to be there for them, do you speak kindly to the staff of the places you visit? If you said yes to these questions, then it’s likely that you tend to treat others with kindness. Now, one more big question… Do you treat yourself with kindness?

If you are always downing yourself or getting upset at yourself over everything, then you aren’t treating yourself with kindness and that needs to stop. Think of how big the impact is if you nurture a growing child; just because you are older doesn’t mean that you quit needing reassurance and praise. I believe that the biggest difference isn’t the age, it’s the way that we perceive the encouragement. When we are young, the encouragement is welcome and enjoyed. Once we are older, we start finding it hard to believe that anyone would want to give us praise when we, ourselves, feel like we don’t deserve it. The bottom line is, you need to be kind to yourself as much as you want to be kind to others.

If you aren’t kind to yourself, then eventually you will have broken yourself down so much that you will no longer want to be kind to others. Not to mention, being kind to yourself will open up a whole new world for you; one where you aren’t always down on yourself, but where you are happy with who you are. Trust me, being happy with who you are makes all the difference in the world. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t recognize when you mess up, just that you shouldn’t be so hard on yourself when it comes to the small stuff.

You’ve spilled some juice and now the floor will be sticky? Okay, no big deal, it will mop up, there is no need to be upset at yourself over it. You’re running late to a really important event? Again, it’s okay, and there is nothing that can be done at that point, so don’t beat yourself because it isn’t going to do anything other than make you feel worse. Chances are, whatever you make a mistake on, it will happen again. That’s just part of life, and it’s how you learn. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and treat yourself with the kindness that you enjoy providing others. Things happen and there is nothing that you can do to control that, but you can control how you choose to feel about the situation.

Take care of yourself like you take care of others, you need you just as much as they do.

 

I know that the last couple of posts have been on the short side, but again, there are some things that don’t need to be over-complicated. I have gotten such a positive response on Even Broken Things Can Be Beautiful, that I wanted to keep reaching people that needed to hear it. I think that everyone struggles with treating themselves kindly, but there are people are out changing the world with their hearts and struggling with the way they treat themselves at the same time. You aren’t alone, and you don’t have to go through it alone. Keep reminding yourself to treat YOU with the kindness that you treat others with, and if you need someone to encourage you to keep (or even start) doing so, then you can reach out to me anytime and I will be here. Thank you guys for reading and as always, much love and God Bless!

If you enjoyed this post, check out my post on why I Choose Happiness and Even Broken Things Can Be Beautiful.

Pay It Forward #5

Pay It Forward #5

Hey guys! I hope that you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving! To bring us back to the “real world” after a little bit of time off with family and friends, I have a new challenge for this week! With the Christmas season quickly approaching, there are so many things that we can do to spread kindness.

This week, I challenge y’all to do one act of kindness a day. It can be anything from giving someone a compliment to helping someone in need. One simple act of kindness every day will impact someone’s life majorly and it only takes a few minutes. Make someone’s day, spread a little cheer, and start this holiday season off in the right ways.

I hope that y’all are enjoying these challenges and that you are having fun with them. I’m always open to suggestions and I love getting comments from you guys! I know that this week’s challenge is on the short side, but it’s fairly straight-forward and didn’t seem to need much explanation. Thank you to all who are reading and, as always, much love!

To check out other Pay It Forward Challenges, click here.

Pay It Forward #4

Pay It Forward #4

Hello all! Today’s Pay It Forward Challenge is a little bit more involved than the others. With Thanksgiving this week, I challenge y’all to donate (food, money, or time) to your local food pantry or someone you know is in need of a good Thanksgiving meal that they wouldn’t get otherwise. If money is tight, and you don’t feel like you have the extra to spend (don’t feel bad, we have all been there) then volunteer at a local food pantry, invite this person to your home, or invite them to your Church’s Thanksgiving celebration. This is the week that we focus on everything that we are thankful for, but remember that not everyone has the same luxuries (yes, a big Thanksgiving dinner is a luxury) that you do. Take this time to extend your help and make a difference in someone’s life. You never know how impactful your actions are to someone around you.

As always, I encourage you to pass this challenge on to your friends and family to help those that aren’t as fortunate. Much love to you all and Happy Thanksgiving!

Pay It Forward #3

Pay It Forward #3

Hey everybody! This week the Pay It Forward Challenge is very different than the other two. This week’s challenge is all about the betterment of you. While the other challenges have been geared toward doing things for others, I want this week to be about helping yourself to grow. This week, I challenge you to do one thing that scares you (nothing harmful). I want you to go for that promotion, ask for that raise, or even start a blog. Now, don’t go around doing anything destructive; this is about improvement, not destruction. Whether you want to invest money into it or not is completely up to you, but take this time to try something new that you have been keeping yourself from.

I encourage you to share this with your friends and family, and urge them to try new things and enjoy life without fear. Also, don’t forget to comment to share your results with me, and others. Good luck and much love!

If you enjoyed this week’s Pay It Forward Challenge, check out my latest post on Why I Blog and why I previously walked away because I was terrified to start it. The link will be below, along with the links to my past Pay It Forward Challenge posts (remember, just because you miss it the week that it’s published, doesn’t mean that you can’t implement these challenges at any time in your lives).

Why I Blog 

Pay It Forward #1

Pay It Forward #2