Pay It Forward #5

Pay It Forward #5

Hey guys! I hope that you all had a wonderful Thanksgiving! To bring us back to the “real world” after a little bit of time off with family and friends, I have a new challenge for this week! With the Christmas season quickly approaching, there are so many things that we can do to spread kindness.

This week, I challenge y’all to do one act of kindness a day. It can be anything from giving someone a compliment to helping someone in need. One simple act of kindness every day will impact someone’s life majorly and it only takes a few minutes. Make someone’s day, spread a little cheer, and start this holiday season off in the right ways.

I hope that y’all are enjoying these challenges and that you are having fun with them. I’m always open to suggestions and I love getting comments from you guys! I know that this week’s challenge is on the short side, but it’s fairly straight-forward and didn’t seem to need much explanation. Thank you to all who are reading and, as always, much love!

To check out other Pay It Forward Challenges, click here.

Confessions Of A Wife

Confessions Of A Wife

Hey everyone! Like always, I want to keep things real with y’all. So, today I want to talk about being a wife. Oh yes, I’m talking about the struggles, the great times, and the insecurities. Everything out in the open, no lies, no fluff, all 100% real life. Wives, you can (most likely) relate; husbands, y’all might want to read for additional information. To all who read, let’s do this. The real starts now.

First, I want to talk to y’all about the insecurities. I think that everyone at some point in their lives will feel insecure about something. For wives, I think that insecurities are very much the same as high shcool girls. I don’t care if our husbands tell us how beautiful we are 10 times a day or 100 times a day, we will always find flaws with ourselves. I can almost guarantee that you, as a wife, have looked in the mirror and thought “Well, maybe if I lose 10 pounds he would think I looked better”. I know this, because my husband always tells me that I’m beautiful(I hit the jackpot, he’s amazing), but the minute I get alone with myself in front of that daggone mirror, I start telling myself that I should look better, for him. Now, I am all about self betterment; I think that you should want to be a better person for your spouse. That being said, I think that half the time, we are inventing things to not like about ourselves that our husbands don’t mind one bit. Again, we always add the I should be ____ for him. I truly believe that we just add the “for him” so that we don’t feel as guilty for downing ourselves. Because, if we are wanting to better ourselves for our love, clearly that can’t be a bad thing. Yet we are the ones who are unhappy with ourselves, and instead of facing that head-on, we pretend that it’s our husbands who find fault with us. Then, BOOM, insecurity formed.

Another big point of insecurity is “another woman”. I’m going to tell the honest truth now. I have never, in the (almost) 5 years that we have been together, thought that my husband (boyfriend back then) would cheat on me. I still don’t think that he would. I just don’t see that happening with him (cue the women saying that he can and that all it takes is the right woman to come along… but he truly just isn’t like that). Even though I 100% DO NOT think that he would EVER, in a million years, cheat on me… I still get jealous when we are out and another woman looks him up and down (or worse, tries to flirt). It’s like it’s hardwired into me. Even though my brain and my heart both know that he’s not going anywhere, I cannot stand when women try to flirt with him. Even though I know that he is a handsome man and women are going to look at him, I still bristle up at the mere thought of another woman batting her eyes at him. Even though I know that he thinks that I’m beautiful, and he loves me more than anything, I feel insecure whenever I see (what I believe to be) a prettier woman look his way. It, again, is one of those things that has absolutely nothing to do with my husband, but in the way that I perceive myself. Because, again, how can he think that I’m beautiful if I don’t feel that way about myself.

Insecurities are things that just are. They develop for many reasons and it takes a long time and a lot of self-love to get rid of them. It can be done though, and every day my husband makes me feel better about myself by telling me how he sees me instead of letting my focus on how I see myself. Wives, tell your husbands about your insecurities, let them help you. Your husbands are your biggest supporters if you will let them be.

Next, I want to talk about the struggles of being a wife. Now, this is different for every wife out there. Maybe you feel like you do more of the housework (I was thankfully blessed with a man who helps me with the housework and often does most of it before I can even get to it). Maybe, you have a husband that you feel like doesn’t listen to you. Maybe you are in the same boat as me and you feel like you just don’t get enough time with him. Let me explain why we don’t get time. My husband is a full time student for Mechanical Engineering and he works part time. When he gets home, we eat dinner together, and then he has homework until we go to bed. When he doesn’t have homework, he’s so tired that he can barely keep his eyes open. That’s just the reality of marrying young while one of you is still in college (I went to a secondary school and got my training to be a nail tech, so I am able to work full time). Then, with all of this, he helps me with life and with the house, and the cars. I’m pretty sure he’s superman… anyway, there are many things in life that can pull you and your spouse away from each other. The trick is to turn it around and use these hard times, or use your struggles to grow closer together.

It’s not easy by any stretch of the imagination. There are times when you will fight for hours just to realize that you were fighting for no other reason than you were both tired and needed to yell. There are times when you will feel as though there is nothing but distance between the two of you and you don’t know how to fix it (usually fixed with a very long talk and a bit of time spent together). That’s what marriage is… it’s going through these struggles and facing hardships, but doing so together and coming out stronger that before. If you’re in the middle of a rough patch in your marriage right now, talk to your husband, talk to a friend (not the shady one who always blames your husband and tries to get you to leave him, but an honest one who is going to help you through it and give you healthy ways to fix the problem), or even talk to me (I’m always here to talk, by email or by snail mail through my P.O. box)… but know that the rough patches don’t last forever.

Lastly, I want to talk to y’all about the great times. In marriage, for every struggle and every insecurity, there is a great time to counteract it. Marriage itself is having a partner for everything and a support system to get you through any situation. Marriage is having the person, that you love most in this world, help you navigate life. I really think that marriage is one of the greatest things that a person can experience; you are one with your other half and it makes everything so much better.

While it’s not always easy, it always levels out to the great again. If you love your husband with all of your heart, and you know that he feels the same way, nothing can ever break the bond that y’all share. No insecurity, no struggle, and no person, can ever take away the love that you have. Even the small moments are great moments; everything from when he strokes a piece of hair out of your face, to when you finally see him (and can’t help but to smile) after a long day of work. Great times come in many forms and always leave you happy and at peace. So much easier to explain, the great times are whenever you don’t let the struggles and the insecurities cloud your marriage and keep you from remembering how much you love your one-and-only.

I feel like you need the balance of the good and the bad to make the good times seem great and the bad times seem insignificant. My husband is everything to me, he is my support system, my rock, and my love. Treat your husband well and appreciate the things that he does for you. We often don’t thank them enough for doing all that they do for us. Hug them, kiss them, and let them know how much you love them.

This is everything, the raw and honest confessions of a wife. I hope that y’all enjoyed this post and a huge thank you to everyone that takes the time to read it. I encourage you to share this with other wives and I encourage you to comment/reach out to me and let me know what you think. As always, much love!

If you enjoyed this post, check out my post on The Truth About Marriage by clicking here or my post on the 5 Steps To Keep Your Marriage New by clicking here.

Pay It Forward #4

Pay It Forward #4

Hello all! Today’s Pay It Forward Challenge is a little bit more involved than the others. With Thanksgiving this week, I challenge y’all to donate (food, money, or time) to your local food pantry or someone you know is in need of a good Thanksgiving meal that they wouldn’t get otherwise. If money is tight, and you don’t feel like you have the extra to spend (don’t feel bad, we have all been there) then volunteer at a local food pantry, invite this person to your home, or invite them to your Church’s Thanksgiving celebration. This is the week that we focus on everything that we are thankful for, but remember that not everyone has the same luxuries (yes, a big Thanksgiving dinner is a luxury) that you do. Take this time to extend your help and make a difference in someone’s life. You never know how impactful your actions are to someone around you.

As always, I encourage you to pass this challenge on to your friends and family to help those that aren’t as fortunate. Much love to you all and Happy Thanksgiving!

Confessions Of A Sinner

Confessions Of A Sinner

Hey everyone, today (3 cheers for bonus posts) I want to get real with y’all. I mean no holding back, real. I want to talk about sin in a Godless world. It’s something that we do daily (whether we try to or not) and I think that it’s time we faced sin head on. It’s also time that someone gets real about the current state of faith in the world around us.

I know that we all sin daily (and don’t try to deny it). It’s in the form of a white lie, envy at the neighbor’s new car, and don’t even get me started on the amount of sloth in this world (which I will admit that I’m guilty of all these things). Plus, it doesn’t help that the media basically glorifies sins these days. I mean, look at our t.v. shows, our music, and our movies. You can’t go out of the house without encountering sin disguised as social-norm. That being said, it’s not an excuse for sin. We should be teaching the next generations, and those that don’t know, that even though it’s more a part of our culture now than it ever has been, it doesn’t need to be furthered.

Here is where this post gets real. We ignore that this rampant sin is spreading like wildfire. We know that our friends or neighbors are struggling with their faith and we say nothing. We watch the shows that are blasphemous and just sit there through it (or maybe fast forward through just that part) and then we finish the show like it’s nothing. We watch as a nation that preaches tolerance destroys those of us with Christian faith and yet we continue to let them. This world is going downhill so fast, it’s becoming (for the most part already is) a Godless world in a time where we need him the most.

The sad part is, we’re to blame. Because we sit through those shows, we ignore the struggles of those around us, we look the other way as others shame our faith. Because it’s easier to lie to someone than it is to tell the truth. Because we have never had a time where more people waste their lives doing nothing (or being destructive) than right now. All of this is happening around us, but it’s easier to keep quiet and keep out of it than it is to speak out against it.

Here’s some raw and honest truth. I am a sinner. I have looked the other way, I fast forwarded through the show, I have lied when it was easier than telling the truth, I have felt envy, I have displayed sloth and gluttony, I have been greedy.

I am a sinner, but I am saved.

We are not meant to be perfect, but we are meant to strive to be better. We are meant to strive toward Godliness and ask for forgiveness. Every day, I wake up and try to be better, kinder, stronger, and more giving than the day before. I fail often and I ask for forgiveness more.

We are all only human in a world that loses God more and more each day. It’s times like this, when the world seems to be crashing down around us, that  it is so important to grow stronger in faith and closer to God. The power is ours, even as sinners, to better the world and better ourselves. The power is ours, even as sinners, to spread the gospel and help those around us to find Christ.

For we are sinners, we are humans, but we are children of God.

I hope that y’all enjoyed this post. It was just a little bonus post for this week since it was on my heart and I had some extra time on my hands. My posting we be back on track starting tomorrow with a new Pay It Forward post and a new More On Life post. As always, Much love!

 

If you enjoyed this post, check out Confessions Of A Wife

5 Christian Must Haves

5 Christian Must Haves

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Today I wanted to share with y’all some of my favorite tools and reminders of faith. These are items that I use daily and love! Below are (in my opinion) 5 Christian must haves. If you want to incorporate these “must haves” into your daily lives as well, there will be a place to click after each item/items that will take you to their Amazon.com product page.

1. Bibles: This is the most important tool for a Christian. A bible is knowledge, comfort, and power against the devil. Now, if you have ever been to your local Bible bookstore, you know that there are countless types of available. For me, personally, I love doodling and coloring (I promise that this is relevant); this means that, naturally, my favorite Bible is one that I can doodle and color in. My Creative Bible has been the best, hands down, for unleashing creativity while receiving the word. This is easily my favorite Bible to take with me to church (it helps my mind to stay focused and gives me something to keep my hands busy while I listen). So, knowing that that is my favorite for creativity, I have to tell you what my favorite study Bible is. My favorite Study Bible is The Study Bible For Women. This Bible is beautiful, informative, and it asks (and answers) some of the most difficult questions that we face as children of God in a broken world. Both of these Bibles are great to have on hand and each offers something unique.

To get your own My Creative Bible, click here. To get your own The Study Bible For Women, click here.

2. Devotionals: A devotional is a great tool for any Christian. Devotionals help you to set aside time each day for just you and God. I think that devotionals are so relaxing and they give you some time of serenity in otherwise hectic schedules. Normally, they are equipped with serene pictures, a verse for that day, an area of text that relates the verse given to our lives, and (sometimes) a section for you to journal in. They are also a good way to get you into your bible for that day and get you focused on the word. The devotional that I’ve been loving lately, is Devotions from the Front Porch. It is a beautiful devotional that never ceases to make me smile.

To get a copy of Devotions from the Front Porch click here.

3. Christian Music: Those of you that know me, know that one of the biggest ways that I worship is through music. I can hear a verse thousands of times and it never seems to hit my heart quite like the same verse put to music. I truly believe that it’s because 9 out of 10 times, you can hear (and feel) the heart and soul put into the words by the singer and you can hear/feel the heart and soul poured in by those playing the instruments. To me, no other music is quite like Christian music. It’s the only type of music that can make me feel like I’m in Church (when I’m in my car)  and give me goosebumps and tears at the same time.  Hymns are classics and contemporary Christian music is growing like wildfire. My favorite musician for this genre is, hands down, Chris Tomlin. His music always gives me chills and you can hear his passion for God in his voice. While there are other Christian musicians that I love, I feel that he just has a style of music that I relate most with. His lyrics are impactful and his music is moving. I could probably write a book about how much I enjoy his music, but I’m going to stop now and just give you a link to my favorite CD of his, so you can check him out yourself.

Click here to access Chris Tomlin’s CD “And If Our God Is For Us”.

4. Worry Stone: Okay, I already know what you’re thinking; “What in the world is a worry stone?” and “Why is a worry stone a ‘must have’ item?”. Let me tell you, my worry stone is one of the best purchases that I’ve made. I know that seems silly, and I’m fully aware that a little stone can’t physically do anything for me, but it is so nice to have in times of worry. I have an extreme fear of needles (like near panic attack type of fear) so going to get my blood drawn is a big ordeal for me. I always carry my worry stone (mine is a small smooth stone with a cross carved into it) and hold it before and during the blood draw. Something about feeling the engraved cross just comforts me and helps to calm me down in times of stress. I think it’s almost like a reminder that God is with me and it helps me to focus on that instead of the problem at hand. A worry stone is also a great way to give your troubles to God. I know that I struggles sometimes with letting go and letting God. It’s like I get so wrapped up in my worries that I forget to do the one thing that would help the most. Having my worry stone keeps me accountable for giving my problems (worries) to God and trusting him to do what’s best for me.

Click here to access a worry stone that is similar to mine. Click here to access the worry stone, in the shape of a cross with “God is never more than a prayer away” engraved on it, that I’m hoping to get soon.

5. Faith Reminders: Faith reminders are just little trinkets around the house that contain scripture or have religious pictures on them. I have my house decorated (overfilled really) with these faith reminders. My two favorites are displayed proudly and serve as smile-makers every time I come through the front door. The first was given to my by a dear friend who seems to always know what I need and when I need it. It’s a plaque with Psalm 37:4 on it (Delight in the Lord  and he will give you the desires of your heart). Mine is this beautiful, weathered paper looking, plaque with a cross encased in glass. My other favorite is a small plaque with Song of Solomon 3:4 (I have found the one my soul loves). This was given to me as a wedding gift, promptly displayed in my home and has been there since. Both of these faith reminders serve to remind me daily that God is with me, in my heart and in my marriage. They make great gifts for the Christmas season and they make great decor for any home.

I searched all over for the Psalm 37:4 plaque, but couldn’t find a replica of mine. If you love this verse and want it displayed in your home, click here to access a different (yet beautiful) Psalm 37:4 plaque. Click here to access the linked Psalm 37:4 plaque. I also can’t seem to find a duplicate of my Song of Solomon 3:4 plaque. That being said, I have linked below two other Song of Solomon 3:4 wall decorations (one on a wooden backdrop and one on a cross) that are stunning. Click here to access the Song of Solomon 3:4 wooden wall decoration. Click here to access the Song of Solomon 3:4 cross.

I hope that y’all enjoyed this weeks “5 Things” post and I encourage you to share with your friends of faith. Let me know what y’all think in the comments and, as always, much love!

Why I Blog

Why I Blog

I know that I touched briefly on the reason I started this blog in my “About Me” post, but today I want to get a little more in depth with it. See, I want to tell y’all about what I feel God is pulling me to do, how I went about figuring this out (with help), and why you should pay attention to what He’s pulling you to do.

Let’s start with a little backstory (who doesn’t love a good backstory). I have always felt the pull to write (like since I was itty bitty and could start little “novels” in spiral notebooks). While I love to write, and always have, I was fairly certain that short of a miracle, I would not be an author or any type of best seller in the future. Now, let’s fast forward some years.

I have worked in a salon for the past couple of years and I really do enjoy my job. I have amazing clients and an incredible (Godly) work family. While I love my job, I have steadily felt the urge to write. Let me tell you, this “urge” has resulted in the, un-needed, purchase of many a notebook (never put away with anything more that a few pages of an unfinished story that I had started) and a plethora of Google Docs that were opened and filled with about a week’s worth of a story. So, you could say that I have been feeling discouraged on the writing front for quite some time. Despite the many failed attempts, I still pick up another notebook and open another Google Doc.

Recently, in about the last 6-8 months, I felt like I had been seeing “Start A Blog” posts everywhere. I was intrigued to say the least and decided then that I was going to start a blog and rule the world! Okay, maybe just rule my domain… and not rule as much as share my opinions… but you get the picture. So, determined to succeed, I started my research. As quickly as my interest began, it faded. All of this start up cost (which didn’t end up being to bad)??? How many hours of networking??? No way, I don’t have that kind of money and I don’t have that kind of time. Just like that, I pushed it out of my mind and went on with my life. Or so I thought that would be the case, but the thought of blogging never left me. I would find myself scouring Pinterest to look at “Start A Blog” posts, income reports, and “Blogging Changed My Life” posts. As much as I enjoyed reading through them, I still felt that it wasn’t my place in the world (though the whole time and for quite some time before, I felt as though I needed to be doing something more with my life). Let’s fast forward again.

We are now up to the point in my life that I like to call two weeks ago, better known as the day before Halloween. My husband and I went out to dinner with our friends (who both have faith that could withstand a hurricane). I always feel like God uses them to tell me things, especially when I’m being to stubborn to see the signs on my own, and this night was no different. While out to dinner (and while both of our husbands were talking away about something that didn’t interest us too much), we got to talking about career choices. She was telling me about some plans in her life that had de-railed and we were talking about how maybe God was trying to tell her that she needed to switch paths. I brought up, briefly, that I felt as though I was meant to be doing something more at the moment but not sure what the “more” would even be. It was a nice conversation, we finished it, and moved on to the next subject. Then, out of the blue, she asked me if I had ever thought of blogging. I told her what I just told y’all and she said that she really felt like God wanted her to tell me to go for it.

Confusing, I know, but I trust her and I trust God, so the very next day I sat down to plan (which I try to do for everything in my life and typically come up with 18000000 different ideas with no clear vision). I, nearly as soon as I sat down, had my name and what I wanted to talk about figured out. From there everything rolled into place. I started this blog, my blog, the very next day and I have loved every minute of it. I’m not the most tech-savvy, I have hit snags (which thanks to wonderful Facebook groups and Google, have been figured out), and I am still in my beginning stages but I really feel like I am doing something that I need to do. I love this and for something that seemed so terrifying nearly two weeks ago, it feels like another home now.

I tell you my “Why I Blog” story to encourage you to go after what you feel like God is pulling you to do. It may seem scary, unobtainable, or just downright not for you, but if God is telling you to do it, everything will work out. Plus, trust me, if you ignore His signs for too long, he’ll start hitting you over the head with what He wants you to do (figuratively of course).

Well, that’s all for today. I know that it ran a little long, but I really hope that it urges you to go after your God-pull. As always, thank you for reading and much love!

If you enjoyed my “Why I Blog” post, check out this week’s Pay It Forward 

Pay It Forward #3

Pay It Forward #3

Hey everybody! This week the Pay It Forward Challenge is very different than the other two. This week’s challenge is all about the betterment of you. While the other challenges have been geared toward doing things for others, I want this week to be about helping yourself to grow. This week, I challenge you to do one thing that scares you (nothing harmful). I want you to go for that promotion, ask for that raise, or even start a blog. Now, don’t go around doing anything destructive; this is about improvement, not destruction. Whether you want to invest money into it or not is completely up to you, but take this time to try something new that you have been keeping yourself from.

I encourage you to share this with your friends and family, and urge them to try new things and enjoy life without fear. Also, don’t forget to comment to share your results with me, and others. Good luck and much love!

If you enjoyed this week’s Pay It Forward Challenge, check out my latest post on Why I Blog and why I previously walked away because I was terrified to start it. The link will be below, along with the links to my past Pay It Forward Challenge posts (remember, just because you miss it the week that it’s published, doesn’t mean that you can’t implement these challenges at any time in your lives).

Why I Blog 

Pay It Forward #1

Pay It Forward #2

5 Steps To Keep Your Marriage New

5 Steps To Keep Your Marriage New

Listed below are 5 steps to keeping your marriage feeling new.

  1. Indulge the kid in you: Not only one of the best ways to keep your marriage young (remember that “young” is a relative term), but a great way to keep you young as well. “Indulging the kid in you” can come in many forms, especially when it comes to your marriage. It basically boils down to HAVE FUN. If both of you enjoy ice cream, then use your adulting privileges and go get a tub of ice cream (and two spoons) late one night on a spur of the moment (don’t do this all the time as it can be a very bad habit to develop… and you don’t want to have a snaccident). If both of you enjoy video games, then pick a lazy weekend afternoon and spend it battling each other out on your game of choice. This method can be applied to nearly every activity that we, as adults, have tried to limit in our lives.
  2. Keep the romance alive: Now, get your head out of the gutter; I’m talking about true ROMANCE. The best way to keep the romance alive is by doing things (big and small) that make your spouse swoon. Romance is what leads to those butterflies coming back into play after life gets a bit routine. The thing is, I can’t tell you what will work best for your spouse. For some, it’s rose petals and candles all over the house after a long week. For others, romance comes in quick surprises like a kiss they weren’t expecting or a surprise date night (pre-planned). Find what makes the love of your life swoon and use it, mix it up, and keep that romance alive.
  3. Never stop chasing each other: This is one of the most important things that you can do in a marriage. It is so easy to let life and routine get in the way of each other once you are settled. Let me tell you now though, if you start forgetting your husband/wife and putting them to the side, IT WILL CAUSE TROUBLE. I have seen it so many times and every single time, it leads to fighting. So never stop chasing your love. Whistle at them when they enter a room (yes, like a wolf whistle). Tell them how much they mean to you, very often. Plan surprises for them; it doesn’t have to be on a large scale (see “Keep The Romance Alive”). Keep chasing your spouse like you were still dating and you’ll grow closer.
  4. No secrets: This is THE MOST IMPORTANT thing that you can do in a marriage. DO NOT KEEP SECRETS… I REPEAT, DO NOT KEEP SECRETS. So, I’m sure that by now, some of you are saying “but I think that some secrets are healthy” and no, just no (for the most part). Let me explain. If you are keeping their Christmas present a secret until Christmas, okay. That is perfectly alright and sweet. If you are keeping some aspect of your life secret, not as much. When you get married, you are becoming one flesh. Meaning, you are one person, living as two. The good and bad parts of you and the good and bad parts of them are all together. They are as much a part of you as you are of them and they deserve to know your life just like you deserve to know theirs. Live as one, with no secrets, and you will be inseparable.
  5. Do Extra: Now, here is a task that most people overlook. Go the extra mile when doing something for your spouse. Keep in mind, this means that you actually have to do something for your husband/wife. If you are going to clean the house and you each have “chores” that you do, go the extra mile and do one of theirs so that they don’t have to. If you are picking something up for lunch from a restaurant you know that they love, grab them something too and either save it for them, or take it to them. If you know that they are sick and they ask you to grab tissues, pick them up their favorite soup, too. Doing extra is just a way of making the person you love’s life a little brighter.

Here you have it, 5 steps to keeping your marriage new. Realize that these steps have to be tailored to your life. That being said, these are wonderful ways to grow closer together and continue feeling the way you did when you were dating.

I really hope that y’all enjoyed this post and if you want to read more on my views of marriage, click here to see my post on The Truth About Marriage. Much love!

Aging and The Elderly

Aging And The Elderly

Today, I want to talk about the elderly. While going through a nurse’s journal (a nurse that is very near and dear to me) for Gerontology, I was reminded many things that I believe people (myself included) tend to forget when it comes to those who are older. Let me preface the rest of this post with a little bit of information about Gerontology. Gerontology, by definition, is the study of aging and the problems that accompany it (basically, the study of elderly).

The first thing that struck me, AGE IS INEVITABLE. It seems like it is complete common sense, but I have noticed that as I get older, the days seem to shorten and the years have become nearly non-existent compared to how they used to feel. I think that,without realizing, watch those around us age with a kind of numb adoration of “freedom” and we miss that they (as well as we) are aging. I mean, those of us that are younger (keep in mind that “younger” is a completely relative term) wish away our days by wanting all of the “freedoms”(no age restrictions) of those that are older than us. Meanwhile, while we are wishing away the time ahead of us, they are wishing that time would slow down. I have yet to meet someone in there 80’s that “just can’t wait” until they are 90, yet all the time I see teens wishing to be in their 20’s. The older I get, the more I see those around me aging and truthfully it makes my heart hurt a bit. Some would say that I am an old soul for at 20, I am already wishing that time would slow down so that I could enjoy the days,months,years, and, most importantly, the people that are around me.

Now, I’m not writing this to seem all doom and gloom. I simply believe that sometimes we need little reminders in our lives to help us slow down and appreciate the time that we are given. Age is as much a blessing as it is anything else. With age comes wisdom, knowledge (yes, it is different than wisdom), and memories. Aging gives you another year of life and more opportunities to touch the hearts of those around you and make a difference. Aging gives you another year to grow closer to God and better yourself. Aging is inevitable, but it is also a blessing.

The next thing that came to mind, UNSHAKABLE FAITH. It seems to me that the older generation has faith that is unparalleled by any other. Maybe it’s just around me and the elderly are as diverse in faith as those my own age; but I have a feeling that those that grew up with God in homes, prayer in school, and God in work (not to mention Church every Sunday – no matter what) might have grown closer to Him. I, personally, think that it is inspiring to hear the older generation talk about the Lord and their faith. They always speak with so much passion and love behind their words that it could move a stone statue to tears. When I hear them, I hear no bitterness in their voices when they speak of hardships. I believe that if the younger generation would start praying as much as they complain, the world would be a much better place. The faith that I read about today and the faith that I see daily in those around me that have been gifted with “old” age is truly inspiring.

The last thing  that stood out to me, LONELINESS. I hate even typing this because here I am writing, what seems to be, doom and gloom again. I don’t write this to be a bummer, I write this to be a reminder. Too often, the elderly are forgotten. Maybe thought of in passing, but often a fleeting though. They too, are part of the family and have so much to offer if you will just sit down with them for a minute or two (figuratively, please stay with them longer than only two minutes). They have amazing stories of harder times, wisdom, and knowledge to share. It doesn’t take long to sit with them and make their day; you’d be surprised to find that it might actually make yours as well.

That’s all for today. I know that it might have seemed a bit long and maybe even a bit dark at times, but I really felt the need to share it with y’all. I encourage you today to go and visit an elderly member of your family (maybe a grandparent or great grandparent) or even go to a local nursing home and see if any of the residents would like to have some company. You wouldn’t believe how big of a difference your presence could make. I hope that you will share this with your friends and family so that maybe they, too, will go out and brighten someone’s day. Plus, you never know who might need this message in their life right now. As always, comments are encouraged and thank you to all who take the time to read! Much love!

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Pay It Forward #2

Pay It Forward #2

Hey all! This week’s Pay It Forward challenge is a little bit harder than last weeks, but it is just as impactful (if not more). This week, I challenge you to spend time with the elderly (remember that age is relative and the term “elderly” is different for everyone). I encourage you to visit a parent, grandparent, or great grandparent and just spend some time talking to them. If you don’t have any elderly relatives, I encourage you to visit a local nursing home.See if any of the residents would enjoy some company and, if they do, go sit with them for a while. Keep in mind, those older than us typically have great stories and legacies to share. One visit could mean the world to them (though feel free to continue visiting them long after this week is over) and it could end up having a big impact on you. Leave a comment with your “Pay It Forward” results and issue the challenge to your friends and family to keep it going! Good luck and much love!

If you enjoyed this week’s Pay It Forward challenge, check out this weeks post on Aging And The Elderly