5 Steps To Keep Your Marriage New

Listed below are 5 steps to keeping your marriage feeling new.

  1. Indulge the kid in you: Not only one of the best ways to keep your marriage young (remember that “young” is a relative term), but a great way to keep you young as well. “Indulging the kid in you” can come in many forms, especially when it comes to your marriage. It basically boils down to HAVE FUN. If both of you enjoy ice cream, then use your adulting privileges and go get a tub of ice cream (and two spoons) late one night on a spur of the moment (don’t do this all the time as it can be a very bad habit to develop… and you don’t want to have a snaccident). If both of you enjoy video games, then pick a lazy weekend afternoon and spend it battling each other out on your game of choice. This method can be applied to nearly every activity that we, as adults, have tried to limit in our lives.
  2. Keep the romance alive: Now, get your head out of the gutter; I’m talking about true ROMANCE. The best way to keep the romance alive is by doing things (big and small) that make your spouse swoon. Romance is what leads to those butterflies coming back into play after life gets a bit routine. The thing is, I can’t tell you what will work best for your spouse. For some, it’s rose petals and candles all over the house after a long week. For others, romance comes in quick surprises like a kiss they weren’t expecting or a surprise date night (pre-planned). Find what makes the love of your life swoon and use it, mix it up, and keep that romance alive.
  3. Never stop chasing each other: This is one of the most important things that you can do in a marriage. It is so easy to let life and routine get in the way of each other once you are settled. Let me tell you now though, if you start forgetting your husband/wife and putting them to the side, IT WILL CAUSE TROUBLE. I have seen it so many times and every single time, it leads to fighting. So never stop chasing your love. Whistle at them when they enter a room (yes, like a wolf whistle). Tell them how much they mean to you, very often. Plan surprises for them; it doesn’t have to be on a large scale (see “Keep The Romance Alive”). Keep chasing your spouse like you were still dating and you’ll grow closer.
  4. No secrets: This is THE MOST IMPORTANT thing that you can do in a marriage. DO NOT KEEP SECRETS… I REPEAT, DO NOT KEEP SECRETS. So, I’m sure that by now, some of you are saying “but I think that some secrets are healthy” and no, just no (for the most part). Let me explain. If you are keeping their Christmas present a secret until Christmas, okay. That is perfectly alright and sweet. If you are keeping some aspect of your life secret, not as much. When you get married, you are becoming one flesh. Meaning, you are one person, living as two. The good and bad parts of you and the good and bad parts of them are all together. They are as much a part of you as you are of them and they deserve to know your life just like you deserve to know theirs. Live as one, with no secrets, and you will be inseparable.
  5. Do Extra: Now, here is a task that most people overlook. Go the extra mile when doing something for your spouse. Keep in mind, this means that you actually have to do something for your husband/wife. If you are going to clean the house and you each have “chores” that you do, go the extra mile and do one of theirs so that they don’t have to. If you are picking something up for lunch from a restaurant you know that they love, grab them something too and either save it for them, or take it to them. If you know that they are sick and they ask you to grab tissues, pick them up their favorite soup, too. Doing extra is just a way of making the person you love’s life a little brighter.

Here you have it, 5 steps to keeping your marriage new. Realize that these steps have to be tailored to your life. That being said, these are wonderful ways to grow closer together and continue feeling the way you did when you were dating.

I really hope that y’all enjoyed this post and if you want to read more on my views of marriage, click here to see my post on The Truth About Marriage. Much love!

Aging and The Elderly

Today, I want to talk about the elderly. While going through a nurse’s journal (a nurse that is very near and dear to me) for Gerontology, I was reminded many things that I believe people (myself included) tend to forget when it comes to those who are older. Let me preface the rest of this post with a little bit of information about Gerontology. Gerontology, by definition, is the study of aging and the problems that accompany it (basically, the study of elderly).

The first thing that struck me, AGE IS INEVITABLE. It seems like it is complete common sense, but I have noticed that as I get older, the days seem to shorten and the years have become nearly non-existent compared to how they used to feel. I think that,without realizing, watch those around us age with a kind of numb adoration of “freedom” and we miss that they (as well as we) are aging. I mean, those of us that are younger (keep in mind that “younger” is a completely relative term) wish away our days by wanting all of the “freedoms”(no age restrictions) of those that are older than us. Meanwhile, while we are wishing away the time ahead of us, they are wishing that time would slow down. I have yet to meet someone in there 80’s that “just can’t wait” until they are 90, yet all the time I see teens wishing to be in their 20’s. The older I get, the more I see those around me aging and truthfully it makes my heart hurt a bit. Some would say that I am an old soul for at 20, I am already wishing that time would slow down so that I could enjoy the days,months,years, and, most importantly, the people that are around me.

Now, I’m not writing this to seem all doom and gloom. I simply believe that sometimes we need little reminders in our lives to help us slow down and appreciate the time that we are given. Age is as much a blessing as it is anything else. With age comes wisdom, knowledge (yes, it is different than wisdom), and memories. Aging gives you another year of life and more opportunities to touch the hearts of those around you and make a difference. Aging gives you another year to grow closer to God and better yourself. Aging is inevitable, but it is also a blessing.

The next thing that came to mind, UNSHAKABLE FAITH. It seems to me that the older generation has faith that is unparalleled by any other. Maybe it’s just around me and the elderly are as diverse in faith as those my own age; but I have a feeling that those that grew up with God in homes, prayer in school, and God in work (not to mention Church every Sunday – no matter what) might have grown closer to Him. I, personally, think that it is inspiring to hear the older generation talk about the Lord and their faith. They always speak with so much passion and love behind their words that it could move a stone statue to tears. When I hear them, I hear no bitterness in their voices when they speak of hardships. I believe that if the younger generation would start praying as much as they complain, the world would be a much better place. The faith that I read about today and the faith that I see daily in those around me that have been gifted with “old” age is truly inspiring.

The last thing  that stood out to me, LONELINESS. I hate even typing this because here I am writing, what seems to be, doom and gloom again. I don’t write this to be a bummer, I write this to be a reminder. Too often, the elderly are forgotten. Maybe thought of in passing, but often a fleeting though. They too, are part of the family and have so much to offer if you will just sit down with them for a minute or two (figuratively, please stay with them longer than only two minutes). They have amazing stories of harder times, wisdom, and knowledge to share. It doesn’t take long to sit with them and make their day; you’d be surprised to find that it might actually make yours as well.

That’s all for today. I know that it might have seemed a bit long and maybe even a bit dark at times, but I really felt the need to share it with y’all. I encourage you today to go and visit an elderly member of your family (maybe a grandparent or great grandparent) or even go to a local nursing home and see if any of the residents would like to have some company. You wouldn’t believe how big of a difference your presence could make. I hope that you will share this with your friends and family so that maybe they, too, will go out and brighten someone’s day. Plus, you never know who might need this message in their life right now. As always, comments are encouraged and thank you to all who take the time to read! Much love!

If you liked this post, check out this week’s Pay It Forward Challenge – https://thelampandthelamb.com/2017/11/06/pay-forward-2/

Pay It Forward #2

Hey all! This week’s Pay It Forward challenge is a little bit harder than last weeks, but it is just as impactful (if not more). This week, I challenge you to spend time with the elderly (remember that age is relative and the term “elderly” is different for everyone). I encourage you to visit a parent, grandparent, or great grandparent and just spend some time talking to them. If you don’t have any elderly relatives, I encourage you to visit a local nursing home.See if any of the residents would enjoy some company and, if they do, go sit with them for a while. Keep in mind, those older than us typically have great stories and legacies to share. One visit could mean the world to them (though feel free to continue visiting them long after this week is over) and it could end up having a big impact on you. Leave a comment with your “Pay It Forward” results and issue the challenge to your friends and family to keep it going! Good luck and much love!

If you enjoyed this week’s Pay It Forward challenge, check out this weeks post – https://thelampandthelamb.com/2017/11/06/aging-and-the-elderly/

The Truth About Marriage

 

The Truth About Marriage

 

Hello all! To start, I really wanted my first in depth blog post to be something close to my heart. I’m going to be real and honest with you guys (in this post and all other posts) about the good, the bad, and the ugly. Today, I want to talk about marriage. I want to touch on the differences between real marriage and the “idea” of marriage… because, trust me, they are two completely different things and I want to talk about sticking with the marriage even if times are tough.

The idea of marriage manifests in thoughts of super fun, stress free, wedding planning and then a perfect wedding where nothing at all goes wrong. This perfect wedding leads to a life of waking up early to enjoy breakfast together, spending the whole day together, and ending the night with a perfect, no hassle (yet elaborate), dinner. This of course is capped with the thought that a life of bliss will follow with little to no hardships. Well, let me provide a little reality for you (people who aren’t married – pay attention, newlyweds – get ready, and those who are married – you’ll know what I mean). Real marriage is hard, it’s messy, it’s work. Real marriage is fighting hardships, trying to survive life, putting in as much (if not more) work at home as you do at your job. Real marriage is fighting over the simplest things (major fights).  It’s holding your spouse’s hair/head while they are sick (which, truthfully is always gross… vomit is never fun). It’s having days where you or your spouse are mad at something completely unrelated to home, but you take it out on each other. It’s always putting someone else first. Real marriage is one of the absolute hardest things to do in life… but it is also worth every minute of it. Because, at the end of the day, real marriage is having someone you love be your teammate for life. It’s having a support system whenever you do something and having the person that you love most in this world help you with life. Real marriage is knowing that you face all hardships and difficulties together instead of alone and that all of the things that you do for them (like putting them first, letting them vent, and holding their hair/head when they get sick), they do for you too. It is having seasoned love that has stood the test of time, but having moments where you look at the person you love and feel every butterfly that you felt when you had just started dating. The “idea” of marriage seems nice, but real marriage is better than any “idea” could ever be.

Now, I want to talk about tough times and getting through them. Make no mistake, at some point in your lives times are going to be hard (for 9.999999999% of people). I hear, more often than not, that life is on track for a couple and that they have everything worked out and nothing will go wrong. While that is a lovely thought, it is merely a thought and doesn’t reflect the real world. Maybe it’s with a job, maybe it’s about the house, maybe finances are tight, maybe it’s even about the marriage… but try your absolute hardest to work through it. By that, I don’t mean just put in the bare minimum of effort and try to work it out for a week before you give up completely on the situation and your spouse; I mean take every ounce of effort that you can muster and throw it into that situation. Use the hardship as a tool to grow closer to the one you love instead of falling apart. The biggest thing, is DON’T GIVE UP. Don’t give up on the situation, don’t give up on your spouse, and don’t give up on yourself. Every situation can be conquered. Give it to God, pray like you have never prayed before, and don’t give up. I have always heard that marriage is a 50/50 relationship, but that  is so wrong. Marriage is a 100/100 relationship because you both have to put all of yourselves in to get the most out. Like I said before, it is hard, but it is worth it. If you use every difficulty that you face as a tool to grow closer (to God and to your spouse), there is no limit to how strong your marriage will be.

To my husband, I love you more than anything and thank you for supporting me in this crazy thing called life.

To all of you, married or not, I encourage you to share this with your family and friends. Show your dating and engaged family/friends to let them know the truth and show your married family/friends to give them a smile. As always, leave a comment and let me know what you think about this post. Much love!

If you enjoyed this post, check out 5 Steps To Keep Your Marriage New!

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Pay It Forward #1

Hey everyone! To kick off the “Pay It Forward” section of this blog, I want to take today to issue the first ever thelampandthelamb.com – Pay It Forward challenge. I challenge you to spend this week giving a compliment to everyone you talk to. This request is so simple, but I promise that it will make such a big impact. Choose at least one thing that you like about every person that you talk to, and tell them instead of just thinking it! It can be anything from an item of clothing, their appearance (don’t be creepy), or even an aspect of their personality. You’d be surprised how much a simple compliment means to people. Leave a comment with your “Pay It Forward” results and issue the challenge to your friends and family to keep it going! Good luck and much love!

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